Mental Health Awareness Week

Mental Health Awareness Week

I was going to avoid this topic this week, may it be due to burying my head in the sand, or scared to talk about so a huge topic.  But I sat there and thought maybe it is something I should talk about as I am aware of so many business owners who are suffering from stress.

Stressy Topic

Stress is close to home for many people, it does not single out any sex, race or religion, it can hit anyone at any time. It can also be subjective, what is stress to one may not be to another, but we need to be so mindful of this as well. Scoffing at others stresses never mind how little they are to you is not supportive at all, and can have such a detrimental effect, so be aware of how you support people. I have been on the receiving end of someone not being supportive to what to me felt like the most stressful situation I had encountered, they just laughed and said ‘you’ll get over it’ just not what someone needs!

Stress is the key focus of this year’s Mental Health Awareness week, I don’t think there is a single person I know that has not been hit somewhere along the line with high-stress levels. Stress can be:

🌸A new job, the worry of starting over, being the new person
🌸An old job causing you angst, office politics, workload
🌸Illness, any number of health problems can cause stress all round
🌸Money, never enough! Cant earn what you need, going without
🌸Family, disagreements, health, worries
🌸Exams, this week sees the start of exams, so stress starts earlier now
🌸Bereavement, we all lose people and this can trigger off stress levels
🌸Being self-employed, the pressure to earn what you used to earn, or the pressure of success.

As you can see there are many things that can trigger stress, but the keyword here is #awareness being aware of how you are feeling, being aware of those around you are feeling, I am not asking you to take on other peoples problems unless you have the mental capacity yourself. But support and acknowledgement are powerful.

My stress levels

You see, I am not excluded from this either, I have my worries and stresses, my goodness they certainly know how to make themselves known, I have the standard worries and stresses, some of which may be to you, are not stresses, but for me running a business is tough, making sure I earn a certain amount each month, being seen by my crowd, making sure people can see that I can provide value and really make a difference in their business.

I have my 2 young children going through school life, and that throws a lot of stress in the mix, watching them worry about friendships, worrying about homework, my eldest has been bullied, and he is aware that this time next year it will be him sitting doing his SATs.

I have a poorly mum myself, she is a huge priority for me, she has looked after me for the most part of my life and if I am honest she still looks after me now, but due to her health, I am always making sure she is ok, taking her to appointments etc.

I have a partner who stresses about things too and works very hard to help me stay doing what I love doing. And if I am honest, I worry about him as being the typical man of the house, he does tend to hold a lot in!

Sometimes those stresses can topple me over the edge, but its ok!

Tough pickings

Mix that with the month of May, and its a tough one for me, not only do I have the general stresses mentioned above, but I get to celebrate my children’s birthdays, as well as acknowledging the passing of my dad too, its a tough tough month and one that is full of mixed emotions, and a month that does not get any easier, whoever says time heals clearly is telling fibs!  So I am very aware of my feelings this month and how to keep a check on them.

But making sure I am aware of my feelings and my stress levels is a necessity, I will admit I don’t always have a handle on my stress levels, but I try. I would love to try some form of meditation, so if you have any recommendations please share them.

Watching out for my clients

I see so many business owners with the weight of the world on their shoulders, wanting to do well in business but just not knowing which way to turn can be the stress trigger they don’t need. I have had clients in the past tell me that the hour or two a month that I support them has been a massive game changer to their mental wellbeing, and that to me is 100% satisfaction.

We may be online more nowadays, let’s build that community for each other, I have an amazing support network in business, I would love to help you get one too.

If you feel like your business is just getting too much, let’s have a chat, let’s see if working with me can help you a little bit, get in touch HERE

#mentalhealthawarenessweek

Love and hugs

~Claire💜x~

Guest blog – Keeping Your Head In It

Guest blog – Keeping Your Head In It

Mindset I know that it’s seen as the guff & fluff of business.  I know that lots of people would look on and say – ack well, how important can that really be?  Why should I waste my time considering my mindset when I have so much other shit to get done?

Woah woah woah…..

I know that mindset is the difference between success and failure.  It’s one of the most fundamental things to get right in your business.  If you wanted me to list the most important things in your business they would look include MINDSET & ACTION as the forerunners.

If the mind isn’t aligned then the action is irrelevant.

Equally, a great mindset and no action isn’t going to get you results either.

They could together hand in hand.  Without the ability to align, to believe and to achieve a passively good mindset then you are going to constantly be buffering up against yourself.  You will go out there – all hell for leather and hustle your little butt off BUT then you’ll keep hitting a kink in the road and it will totally throw you off.  You will end up with your head in your hands, questioning your abilities and your worth.

MINDSET IS IMPORTANT!

Without getting your mindset right you will keep stalling your progress.

Let’s just beat down the additional steps that I would deem as important in your business too;

Mission – what are you here to do

Who Are You Here To Serve (looking at commonality in your crowd)

Message – what are you here to share with them

Visibility – that ridiculous marking bollock word that’s all about being seen and showing up.  Essentially it means are you actually sharing that message, are you doing the shit you need to be doing, are you serving your crowd?

Service – go serve the pants off your crowd.

Anyways – back to Mindset. Self-talk has the most ginormous impact on your mindset and the self-talk fairy can hideous and be consumed with her chatter.  I have found that the less “proof” you have of any particular situation or circumstances the louder and nastier that chatter can be.  What do I mean by this?  Well, making progress in your business is always about taking the next step, it’s always about doing things you haven’t done before and being ballsy enough to show up and do your thang (no matter what) and as soon as we step into unknown realms this brings us questions about self-worth, about whether we can do it and the self-talk fairy dives in with all the reasons you shouldn’t do it, all the reasons you should stay safe and all the reasons why you will fail.

Now, when we have evidence paths (prior experience of similar situations) we are able to shut the self-talk fairy up and slap her down with ease because we can call on evidence that it will be ok.

If we have no evidence then she can have a field day and leave you doubting EVERYTHING.

My big advice

Is to start to bring together an Evidence Base – I would suggest that you grab a notebook or open a file within an app on your phone (something that you can have to hand all of the time) and start to right down the evidence of the things that you’ve done well, the stuff you’ve achieved, the times you’ve felt scared but dug deep and come out of the other side, the stuff you’re proud of, the feedback you’ve had from your audience, the goals you’ve smashed and used it as a good old big up of your self. It might feel very ego-centric BUT the idea is that it will allow you to bash down the self-talk fairy with ease when she get’s started.

Outsourcing

Let’s turn our attention to mindset when it comes to outsourcing things in your business.  I know that you’re going to say;

I can’t afford it

It’s easier for me to do it than show someone else how to do it.

It’s something that “big” businesses do.

I have a little reframe for you when it comes to outsourcing.  Look at outsourcing as an investment.  It’s an investment which allows you to free up your time.  The time that you free up should be, initially, used for money-making activities.  You can then get a return on that investment at the outset and therefore this will show you that that investment is truly worthwhile.

You can do this all by yourself but you don’t have to do it alone AND you won’t be able to do it at all if you burn out.


In Summary…..

Mindset work isn’t guff & fluff and it isn’t lame!!

Here’s the thing – if the mind ain’t aligned then the action is irrelevant. So just “doing” isn’t enough. You need to have the mind aligned with the action you are taking in order to achieve the very best results.

 

Flip it the other way – the mind is aligned but no action is taken will result in no progress.

 

Mind + Action = Results.

An aligned, positive and connected mindset is necessary AND action is necessary.

 



Emma Holmes - Rebels & Rockstars

Emma Holmes is the Proud Owner and Founder of Rebels & Rockstars: a hatchery for entrepreneurs with soul.

Helping heart-centred and soulful entrepreneurs to build ridiculously big businesses is her vocation, and she still pinches herself sometimes, that this is actually her job. (She used to be a lawyer who loved living in corporate land, but when mummy guilt arrived, she challenged herself to a new adventure.)

Emma’s also an outsource cheerleader and a spiritual but practical kind of soul. And she is definitely not scared of a challenge. (She set herself the biggest challenge of her self-employed life in 2015 – to grow a £100k online business without using the ‘tried-and-tested icky sales techniques’ that £100k biz owners usually resorted to.)

Her 2015 success story has since been put to good use (many times), and Emma is positively thrilled to have helped her clients with some pretty amazing online launches – 18k income in one day, launches of £54k+ in sales, and a 30K in 30 days project are just a tiny snapshot of her clients’ achievements.

But what makes Emma beyond ordinary is that she has her own interpretation of business success, and it isn’t about totting up your bank balance.  She knows real, long-lasting business success is about creating a sustainable business you love, which grows naturally, fits around your lifestyle and family, and enables your authenticity, and sparkly personality to shine.

As well as being a real-life human blogging machine, Emma has also been featured on That’s Manchester TV and BBC Radio. She’s written for Business Rocks, Freelance Parenting, Fresh Business Thinking, Talented Ladies Club, and MeMeMe.

In a nutshell, she’s proud to be a square peg who doesn’t care about round holes and fitting in boxes. And she encourages her clients to do the same.

https://www.rebelsandrockstars.com/

https://facebook.com/EmmaHolmesRebelsandRockstars/

Mindset is not just for January!

Mindset is not just for January!

As we say farewell to January, probably one of the toughest months for most, not just business owners, just everyone in general.  We have seen the end of the festive period, Blue Monday and what seems an age since we had money going into our bank accounts.

But the light at the end of the tunnel is here and we can breathe a deep sigh of relief, February is here, and Spring is ever closer! We have seen loads of goal setting, resolutions, how powerful 2018 is going to be, as well as the be kind (my motto) as well as mindset.

I have refrained from doing anything about mindset in January as I know there is a lot of noise on this matter through January and its true, mindset is everything, if you don’t have that straight, your balance is off, both in business and in general life, you have got to have your mindset balanced, it is so easy to be knocked off your balance, this could be a number of factors.  January is enough to knock anyone off kilt, but getting back on is key, so brush off those knocks and doubts and get back to balancing your mindset and actions.

Why is mindset so important? 

Believe it or not this is what makes us feel how we feel, do the things we do and when, the definition of Mindset is simply, your mood, your attitude, your intention, ideas and the approach you have on a situation, so if you are down in the dumps (as my dad used to say) then your mood is down, this alters your attitude to doing something, and you have less intention to get on with what you need to do.

So, it’s all about keeping that on the up, aligned and in check, having those knocks or talking yourself out of things will only push your mindset of kilter.

It could be a factor 

If you are finding that everything is a struggle, or your confidence in performing certain jobs and tasks, or even lacking confidence in your knowledge, this could be a result in your mindset being unbalanced, life is very much about can and can’t do’s, but we often tell ourselves we can’t do something quicker than we tell ourselves that we can, this boils down to confidence and your mindset.

To get this sorted you need to push that Self-talk fairy off your shoulder, (self-talk fairy a phrase coined by the lovely Emma Holmes of Rebels and Rockstars, who is guest blogging for me on this topic very soon).  Once you have got rid or at least gagged her for a while (your self-talk fairy not Emma) you can start to build your confidence which will have a staggering effect on your mindset, as you won’t be talking yourself out of things (mood and attitude part of mindset)

Drowning

Another biggie for your mindset is your workload, when you are swamped, and your to-do list is just screaming more hours at you, it hits your motivation, which then starts that huge ricochet ripple of doubt, angst and self-talk, if you are struggling with your workload do not look at it as a failure, spin it around and see it as a positive! Instead of telling yourself you are a failure because you can’t keep up with your work demands, say to yourself, I am getting busier, my clients are enjoying working with me, my products/services are resonating with my clients which means I am getting busier!

See the different mindset spin can really help you.

Discovery calls 

If your business is picking up and you are finding you have less hours to do those tasks, then see this as an opportunity to put something in place now, before you do get into a spin that you cannot get out of, book a free call with me and we can run through your sticking points.

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